I was actually booed while sitting on a recent panel, because of my perspective. What I said exactly (please hold your boos until you reach the end of this blog) was that “even if a woman spits in a man’s face he should not hit her. He should do nothing but walk away”. After many debates with men and women who strongly disgree with me, I stand by my statement.

Look, I don’t condone anyone spitting on anyone. In fact, I don’t think any disagreement should become physical. But it is important to remember in most cases… men are stronger. A man’s body contain pound for pound more muscle than a woman’s. So when a disagreement between a man and a woman becomes physical, according to the US Department of Justice, women are significantly more likely than men to be injured. And the number one killer of African-American women ages 15 to 34 is homicide at the hands of a current or former intimate partner.

And yes, there are men that are seriously abused by women. But the number of battered men are far less than battered women. In fact, the Bureau of Justice Statistics reveals that women are about six times as likely as men to experience intimate partner violence.

With that said, I feel it is dangerous to give any many any excuse or justification to hit a woman. One man may feel he was justified because she spit in his face. Another, because she got up in his face daring him to hit her. Another, because she didn’t have dinner on the table when he got home. Another, because she couldn’t keep the kids quite. It all may depend on the mentality of the men. We have to create a culture where a man abusing a woman is unacceptable. Period.

Let me ask this to those who disagree with me, if Rihanna had spit in Chris Brown’s face, does it justify the beating she allegedly received from him?

And fellas you should ask yourself… if a woman is doing anything that makes you want to hit her… why are you with her in the first place? Especially if she is spitting in your face or doing other things to provoke you? Don’t you deserve someone more mature than that? Why risk severely injuring or killing a woman and getting locked up, when you can just walk away?

Real men turn the other cheek and walk away.